Age 12: A Bra or Sexual Intercourse?
I’m fortunate to receive news each week about happenings in the world of sex and kids. Today’s news was shocking.
“One in four low-income children between the ages of 11 and 16 reported having sex, with their first sexual intercourse experience occurring at the average age of 12.77.”
These just-released results from University of Iowa’s Brenda Lohman, an associate professor of Human Development and Family Studies, are based on three studies of sexual activity among low-income children.
Dr Lohman further states,
“So if 12 years was the average age, that meant that some kids were starting to have intercourse at 10 or younger. A handful of kids reported having sex as early as 8 or 9.” (my emphasis)
Many of us still think of 12 as the age to take our daughter out to buy her first bra. Instead we need to be discussing smart choices in relationships, pregnancy, STD’s (sexually transmitted diseases), and forms of birth control.
We can sit here and say, “Oh, that’s low-income children. My kids and our lives are different.” Or we can rationalize, “Well, it‘s only a study. That doesn’t happen in my neighborhood. ”
Doesn’t matter. The point is that very young kids are experimenting with sex, and it takes two people to have intercourse. If we don’t take this seriously and make plans to talk with our kids about sex sooner rather than later, we may be too late.
To read more about this important research, click on an article about Dr. Lohman’s study on First Sex Among Youth.
Today’s assignment (should you choose to accept it): Figure out a way to bring the subject of sex into a conversation with your kids. Reference a TV show or ask your child/ren if they ever talk about sex with their friends. (Yes, I know it’s hard to just straight out ask something like that, but you have to start somewhere! ) Don’t wait another day!
Still reeling from this article…